Couples therapy across Wisconsin
You’ve outgrown how you used to do this. Let’s build what comes next.
Most couples aren’t failing because they’re bad people or they don’t love each other. They’ve outgrown the skills they started with and haven’t yet built what comes next.
When we slow down the moment of escalation, something important happens. You begin to see what drives your reactions, how your nervous system responds to stress, and what each of you is protecting.
You don’t have to be certain about the outcome to begin. You only need to be willing to look at the pattern together.
Conflict is not proof that your relationship is broken.
Who I work with
Couples caught in conflict that keeps cycling, communication that has stopped working, or the aftermath of infidelity. Couples going through life transitions: new parents, loss, empty nesters, retirement, and more.
What to expect
Sessions are 90 minutes, in person if you’re in the Madison area, virtual wherever you are in Wisconsin. If one of you is more hesitant than the other, that’s common and welcome here. We start with a free consultation call to see whether we’re a good fit, with no pressure and no commitment.
Not sure you want to stay together? Discernment Counseling may be a better first step.
Hi, I’m Bobbie.
I see relationships as developmental: people change, and the relationship has to change, too.
I work exclusively with couples navigating conflict, disconnection, life transitions, infidelity, and uncertainty about their future together.
My approach is experiential and growth-oriented. We don’t just talk about conflict. We slow it down in real time so you can recognize what’s happening underneath it. I strive to understand and empathize with both of you. I’m here to help you build skills and capacity, so your relationship feels steadier and more resilient.
I come to every session prepared, because your time and your relationship deserve that. And this isn’t just a job for me — I care deeply about this work.
Repair and rupture are part of every long-term relationship, and learning to move through them is a skill. This is skill-building for the relationship you actually want. It’s not a quick fix, and it asks for honesty and effort from both of you. It also has room for joy and laughter, yes, even in the therapy room.
